sperm tests and the mr & miss average

A healthy male discharges 50 million sperm in a single ejaculation. During sexual intercourse, of all those millions of sperm, only a couple hundred will make it to a mature egg that is ready to be fertilized.

As previously disclosed the average per 1ml should contain around 20 million sperm but we're working with less than 3.. hmm.
When faced with this information where do you go next? The internet!
The internet is everyones favourite research department.. It can generally tell you whatever you need to know in a matter of moments but when it comes to fertility you never quite get a straight answer.
Every site tells you different facts and figures and those that do match up are vague at best. I've come to the conclusion nobody really knows how a sperm goes on to fertilise an egg.. I think if they were honest, even the scientists are baffled. Yes maybe they can do it in a petri dish but nobody give a definitive answet why some sperm can get to the egg and conceive a baby and some can't.
There are lots of theories... "well this can affect and that doesn't help... buy this contraption and you'll be pregnant within a month... or you won't, no promises" nobody really knows do they.
Doctors tell men and women all over the world they have little to no chance of having children and they go on to have a whole brood.
So when you're told you have fertility issues what are actually supposed to do? How are you supposed to feel?
It's been a couple of weeks since our appointment with the consultant now and I've tried to put babies out of my mind, concentrating on other things but you can't make plans when you're trying to conceive ... I can't plan a holiday in 6 months time... I may not be able to fly let alone wear a bikini... what now?

I haven't reached a conclusion yet but I thought I'd leave you all with some facts and figures of my own
Ones of course I've borrowed from other sources

• One study showed that geographic location influenced average sperm count. Men in New York City had higher sperm counts than men in Los Angeles. (Whether a man's sperm count will increase should he move from L.A. to the Big Apple is not clear, however.)

• Humans are among the least fertile of any species on earth. Pregnancy is a result of a complex combination of factors and events. When trying to have a baby, the chances of conception in any month of unprotected intercourse are just 20%

• Studies show that about 40% of infertility cases are caused by female factors, 40% by male factors and 20% by a combination of both

• Sperm can live in the female reproductive tract for up to three days after intercourse, so having sex every day, or even on ovulation day, is not necessary. What is critical is knowing when you are fertile. According to data from the AIA, 20 percent of couples seeking infertility treatment are not timing intercourse correctly.

xoxo

MissBB